Yoni, the Sacred Cave.

by HILLY SPENCELEY

Hilly is a powerful and dynamic sexual/spiritual teacher. She is a catalyst and initiator. As mother of 6 and grandmother of 11, she is the ultimate wise women and dark angel, working at all times with the shadow. Her approach is very grounded and practical, coming from her deep understanding of family and intimate relationships. She is known for her wisdom, joy, love and total acceptance within her workshops and is very skilled and experienced in running groups of which she has over 30 years practice.

A healthy and natural Yoni is soft, wet welcoming and elastic…

We in Shakti Tantra have been giving and receiving Yoni healings for over 20 years and are now highly experienced in this field.  These days it has become a little more mainstream and is talked about in regular magazines, radio and television.  And of course this is the way it should be.

Many people happily receive a massage for pleasure and relaxation or a deeper more therapeutic approach.  Mostly in these massages the genitals are not included and on the other hand if we have a ‘sexy’ massage, often the rest of the body is not given the same attention.  So, that gives us the message that our sex is somehow separated from the rest of the body.  In our pursuit of becoming a whole person and to love and integrate all parts of ourselves in vibrancy and balance, Yoni healing is a very important step towards this.

I had my first Yoni healing 25 years ago and have continued to have them on a regular basis.  The experience of them is so sacred, soft, gentle, open, beautiful and brings one to the place of immense love and acceptance on the deepest level.  I cannot think of any other activity that is more Divine and ancient.

So let me explain what this is about and the benefits…

Essentially we are releasing the body’s armouring ( a concept by Wilhelm Reich 1897-1957).  Or another way to explain this, is when something happens to us, whether large or small, it has an impact and causes us to withdraw from our place of open innocence.   We close, we become numb…the tissues and muscles in the body, over time, literally become hardened and can create disease, springing from the inability of the energy to flow in a healthy way.   This can happen from many things e.g. medical intervention, inappropriate touch, saying ‘yes’ instead of ‘no’, abortion, childbirth, insensitive or rough partners, over use of vibrators, rape etc..

Many things that mean we have been touched in an unconscious manner…

With all this, what happens is our genitals loose their sensitively, we loose our feelings and become withdrawn from deeper sexual activity, we become either frightened or have an inappropriate bravado.  And only occasionally do we touch upon a natural flowing experience, instead we tend to leave the body, our lovemaking is fueled by outside stimuli and we behave as society expects of us.

None of this is ideal, we are missing out on some beautiful, sensual and fulfilling lovemaking, our capacity for immense pleasure and an acceptance in sex and love.